Reading body language on a date isn’t easy, says media trainer

Did she flip her hair often? Did he make solid eye contact when he talked to you? These could be signs the person likes you—or not, according to the author.

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Mike was one of those people. He went on a date with Lauren and thought they really hit it off. She didn’t agree and chose not to respond to his subsequent voice mail and text messages.

Mike got upset and drafted a 1,604-word email to her. His email was posted to the social bookmarking site Reddit this month, where it immediately went viral. Even though the authenticity of the email hasn’t been independently verified, it’s worth taking a look at a few key excerpts and figuring out where “Mike” went wrong.

Here’s a portion of Mike’s crazy email:

“I assume that you no longer want to go out with me…I suggest that you make a sincere apology to me for giving me mixed signals. I feel led on by you.

“Things that happened during our date include, but are not limited to, the following:

“You played with your hair a lot. A woman playing with her hair is a common sign of flirtation. You can even do a google search on it. When a woman plays with her hair, she is preening. I’ve never had a date where a woman played with her hair as much as you did. In addition, it didn’t look like you were playing with your hair out of nervousness.

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